Tuesday, 14 February 2017

Teenage Years: A bit Rubbish

Ah, the teenage years of your life... so fun, exciting, full of partying and good times with your best friends, wasting your life away without a care in the world... 

Or just utter c***.

The older generation seem to think the teenage years are the best years of your life. My fellow teens and I thoroughly disagree with that. Because, after all, your teenage years are really just a mess of expectations, hormones, puberty, other teens being bitchy and mean, annoying parents, 'love' and rejection, a lack of independence, trying to find an identity and being hated on by the media. 

We get told to grow up one minute and act like adults then when we do we are told to act our age and enjoy being young. The teenage years are just this void of your life where you are stuck in the middle of being a kid and an adult... you don't know who you are anymore or what it is you should do with your life which stretches out in front of you like a strange and desolate road. You are just there, like floating particles in a galaxy of moving planets and stars. 

Yeah, we have to deal with those completely mental things called hormones as well which doesn't help the whole teenage crisis. And there's always going to be a load of ridiculous drama when you are a teen. You only need to watch an episode of 'Skins' to realize that being a teenager is a horrible, horrible time of heartbreak, bitchiness, fallouts, unrequited love, love which goes wrong, dodgy parties, dodgy alcohol and dodgy drugs. Ok, maybe Skins is a bit of an exaggeration of the normal teen's life. I for one have never been to a club and got completely off my face on drugs and alcohol. But the parties are alright, and that's one of the good things about being a teen. It's a time of (limited) freedom, a time when you can let loose and enjoy being young.

A lot of bad things happen on the teen drama show 'Skins'...
this show does not make teen life look good.
But the teen years are a time where everyone is a bit mean to each other, a lot of judging goes on and there's a lot of 'putting people into boxes'. You're either cool or uncool and popular or unpopular, you can't just be a bit of both and say you're 'a bit cool and a bit popular'. You're either In or you're Out, a bit like the EU referendum where you couldn't say 'yeah I'm just a bit out of the EU'. And in these teenage years you are just discovering the magical and slightly crazy thing called love. Yes, love, when you desperately want to sleep with that boy or girl you saw at school, when people start to get boyfriends or girlfriends and fall in love, make decisions about who they love or just get into a load of sticky heartbreak and rejection. 

And you'd think your parents would have some understanding of all this and perhaps try and be a bit nicer to you and help you out... because after all, these are the worst years of your life, but actually they have no clue what the bloody hell you are going through and even manage to make things a lot harder than they already are as things were apparently 'easier' in their day, 'none of this technology or important exams'. They tell you that you should help more around the house, do the washing up etc but they also want you to study for your exams, get good grades and get out there and get a job. And all this time you're also trying to work out who you are, what career path you should go down and what it is you want to do with your life after you leave school. 

This picture is fake. School is not a happy time. There is a lot 
of boring revision and pressure to get good exam grades. 
You are expected and told to get good grades and go to university or you'll be working in the greasy pits of McDonalds when in reality grades aren't the be all end all and you should really just do what makes you happy. Then you are constantly being told not to do this, not to do that, don't swear or you'll go to your room etc. And when you do stay in your room your parents will ask 'why do you just stay in your room? Why don't you come downstairs and talk to us?'. So you go downstairs and try and join in with the rest of the family but your heads just too messed up, going through too much and you find it boring when they're just sat there watching the chase and you'd rather just be in your room listening to your music and doing whatever it is you want to do, not sat on the sofa watching tv next to your family. 

Then when you go on your phone they will ask what you are doing on it, why you're always on the bloody thing. You're on it because it's an escape from the tedious routine and reality of life and because it allows you to talk to people you actually want to talk to! Not your parents who just want to talk about the bloody price of a joint of beef or what we should have for dinner or when your going to get a job or what you did at school which you try and leave at school and not bring home to the place you can just relax (or try to). It's all a bit rubbish when you're a teen but adults don't seem to understand this.
We are not all underage drinkers and we don't all do drugs.

Then you have the media, bombarding society with images such as a load of angry looking teens outside a corner shop carrying knives and a bottle of vodka and headliners like 'hoodies attack elderly again'. The media demonizes us, calls us 'hoodies', 'louts', 'scum' and make us all out to be thugs and dirty drug dealing, stealing criminals who don't respect their elders. When in fact, I know many teens who help out at charity shops and care homes therefore actually helping society and contributing to it. But we get told we are the messed up, disordered generation only concerned with social media and selfies when half of us hate social media and are just as fed up with technology as our elders are. 

Oh yeah... and lets not forget the moody, stereotypical character 'Kevin the teenager' from the Harry Enfield comedy sketch show my parents take great delight in watching and saying that I act like that when I don't. Not all teenagers are moody, lazy, grumpy and horrible to their parents and not all teenagers are criminals. 

The stereotypical Kevin the teenager
I spoke to a 20 something year old the other day who said "Make the most of your school years... after school it gets a lot harder... I wish I was still a teenager". And this makes me think 'if my teen years are bloody horrible then what is my adult life going to be like?!' Is life just a downward slope from the moment you are born? No of course not, let's try and be optimistic here... I think the teenage years are perhaps the worst years to some extent however I suppose you can either see your teenage years as a horrible, difficult time of mess or as a long road of exploration and self discovery.

And as Kevin the teenager would say... 'It's so unfair!' 

1 comment:

  1. Ahahaha this was great! I definitely used to feel this way A LOT, but now I'm nearing the end of my teens, I am starting to think that for the most part they have been really great haha! It does get better, I swear <3

    Anne // www.aportraitofyouth.co.uk